“We are just friends”.

These are the infamous words that are used to cover evidence of an emotional affair.

If you are going to a person of the opposite sex (not your spouse) for advice, laughter or acceptance, you need to ask yourself this serious question: WHY? Why are these needs met outside of your marriage? While you defend the relationship and say it’s no big deal, let me warn you, it is a slippery slope. satan uses our human desire to feel needed to destroy our marriage.

• If are questioning whether or not you are having an emotional affair here are a few questions to ask yourself.
• Do I spend more time with the other person, either in person or talking via phone, text or social media than I do my spouse?
• Am I always comparing my spouses actions, or lack of actions to the other person?
• Do you find yourself talking about what the other person does to other’s, frequently?
• Do you find that you go out of your way to work with them, be on the same team or at the same place they will be?
• When someone brings up this persons name; does your face lighten up? Does your attitude change?
• Lastly, do you have a completely different tone in speech and the way you interact with your spouse verses they way you interact with this person?

If find yourself answering yes to these questions and you also find yourself defending your actions to others with these words “we are just friends”…. You just might be having an emotional affair!

The next question to be asked is WHY?

This question has many facets to it, which will be in the next blog, but for today ask yourself this soul searching question:

What was the example I saw growing up when it came to a committed relationship with a spouse?